5/15/2017 0 Comments you have to have this.....So this is difficult because I have to be transparent but I also feel the whole purpose behind this is helping someone through my transparency.
I am learning on my journey to Becoming His First Lady, that it is a requirement that I LOVE people. Whew... I know you're thinking well, duh! and I know you are probably thinking well that's easy. But it is NOT. This is one of the things I struggled with and one of the things God is working with me on. See, it's easy to love who you like, or love who fits into your box or those who in your mind deserve your love but what about loving the ones that don't love you? What about loving the ones who don't listen to your advice, who don't follow your rules, who don't do right, who don't fight in your box? Can you love those the EXACT SAME WAY you love the others? Because that's what we are charged with!!! Especially, if you are a leader in ministry or a Pastor, or Pastor's wife. You are charged with LOVING. Now don't get me wrong we are all charged to LOVE but as leaders you have a responsibility to lead with LOVE, to teach with LOVE, to EXEMPLIFY LOVE! Now, when God first brought this struggle of mine to the forefront of my mind, my first thought was I'm already doing that. But I knew that God would not challenge me with something I have already mastered, so I must had some work to do. I asked God what did I need to do, where was I going wrong and God took me to the Word. I had to reexamine how I defined LOVE and how I showed it! Lets look at 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 itdoes not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. Break that down... Insert your name and see if the scripture still flows the same. I have to constantly ask myself, Is Kristina being patient? Is Kristina being kind? Is she boasting, is she proud, is she dishonoring others? Is Kristina insisting on her own way(this one is a big one for me), Is Kristina enduring, hoping, believing? I have to ask myself the hard questions if I want to become HIS first lady. I have to LOVE people! I have to treat them right! I have to do it REGARDLESS of their actions towards me. and for me.... if you can't do this.... then you should NOT be in LEADERSHIP GOD DOES NOT PLAY ABOUT HIS CHILDREN, HE LOVES THEM AND HE EXPECTS YOU TO TREAT THEM PROPERLY Are you? Selah #BecomingHisFirstLady
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5/8/2017 0 Comments 1st Lady requirements....Whats required to be a First Lady?
-Be married to a Pastor Yep that is it! I know somebody was expecting more and believe me I have sought God searching for more but when it came down to it, this was it! All that is required to receive the title of First Lady is being married to someone in the ministry. Now for the list of what is NOT required, please see below! WHAT YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE TO BE A FIRST LADY: -makeup -hair -cute clothes -high heels -traditional church suits -big hat -stockings -manicure/pedicure -college degree -business -children -car -house -singing ability -speaking ability -preaching ability -speaking in tongues -a bible -participation in a particular group or club in church -leading a particular group or club in church You starting to catch my drift! Real talk, none of the stuff that society or sometimes the church wants to sell us on, is actually required for holding the title of First Lady. Some women are stressing themselves out, destroying their freedom and self esteem to fit in a box that was never intended for them. We have to break free from the requirements that we allow others to put on us, that bind us to living anything else but our authentic, God purposed selves. We have to trust our Creator and what He has planted in us. I believe when we step out of the boxes that other people have created for us, we can begin to step into the freedom of what God has called us to. Now don't me get wrong, those things listed above are not bad, they just are not required. However, if you want to talk about what is required to be your spouses help meet, to be suitable for him. That is a TOTALLY different conversation/post! Remember, a "help meet" is "a helper suitable for him"! You must seek God and your spouse to find out what you need to be suitable for them and their calling. We are called to help them period ... in and out of season, in and out of the pulpit! We are to help in life! p.s. and no that does not cancel out that you have your own calling too ;) So what you think, do you have what it takes to be a First Lady? #BecomingHISFirstLady |
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